Author: debscarey
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Z: It’s a Zoo out there!
I read an amusing meme the other day which said the following… Dating after 30 is easy, it’s like riding a bike.But the bike is on fire, and the ground is on fire.Everything is on fire, because you are in hell. Unknown Imagine then what it’s like when you’re over 40, or 50, or more……
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Y: was that a Yawn?
A dear friend of mine was known for her preference for toy boys (and hats off to her for challenging the status quo) but she had a rule that they couldn’t be below a certain age because, unless they’d lived a bit, they had no conversation 🙂 For attraction which is solely physical does not…
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X: the eX Factor
When you’re seeking a new relationship in your mature years, one undeniable fact is that everyone has a past. Most of us would state with a degree of certainty that we’re ready to get into a new relationship when we start dating…. yet it’s rare there’s absolutely no unresolved past stuff. Today, the unresolved past…
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W: Tell me When? (or Quando, Quando, Quando)
There are many questions you’ll ask yourself – whoever you are – once you step into the world of dating, it’s just that the question of when seems like a bigger question than the rest, if you’re seeking a relationship in your mature years. You feel like you’re on the clock, and you worry about…
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V: Values – Do they match?
Values come in all shapes and sizes, they can be both altruistic and self-focused – but it is vital we own them and prioritise them in seeking a mate. What do I mean by Values? Values are the things that are important to you – principles, morals, things which motivate you or guide your decision…
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U: The value of good, matching Underwear
When I re-dipped my toe into the world of dating at the grand old age of 50, I was not what you’d call an obvious catch – grey, overweight, with a mumsy dress sense, and decidedly lacking in confidence and self-worth. So, I spent time casting about for inspiration and advice, which is how I…
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T: Not before the Third Date!
I’m guessing we’ve all heard the one about the third date, before which – as a woman – one must not engage in sexual congress unless you want to be judged. I’ve promised myself I will not rant on this topic, so I’ll limit myself to the following…. There are legions of women who’ve broken…
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S: Shooting fish in a barrel
The quotation I’ve chosen is from a man who plays American football. A big guy, well able to take care of himself, yet this is how he describes safety. He’s able to see past his own point-of-view and understand that yours is different. And that’s important. We all have different learned experiences, and we adjust…
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R: R E S P E C T: ‘cos Aretha’s not just the Queen of Soul
How high on your list of requirements is respect? Not just his for you, but yours for him. This poem says it better than I on the big stuff…. If we can not respect anotherHow can we expect them to respect usIf we can not respect someone’s beliefsHow can we expect them to respect oursIf…
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Q: Questions: there’s no need for an interrogation
Obviously I’m going to hark back to my It’s All About You mantra and remind you that the first questions to ask are the ones to ask yourself. Once you’ve got the answers to your questions, then the questions you should ask him are the ones which will enable you to identify whether your potential…
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