Whenever the word “friend” is mentioned in dating scenarios, I saw it as falling into one of three categories: friend with benefits being friend-zoned loving someone who is also your best friend The first category is – in my view – a much maligned one. If you are able to separate sex from love, then…

I opened up this series of posts by suggesting the importance of knowing yourself (here), for only by doing this – and doing this honestly – are you able to apply a degree of laser focus to your dating. Let me give you an example. I knew I wanted a serious relationship, one that would…

When I was newly re-singled aged 50, the world of online dating was a massive learning experience for me. Although I’m not someone who’s ever kept a diary, I did write about my experiences in something I mentally entitled Debs Dating Diaries. Yup, I think I was imagining myself writing a regular column in some…

Let me tell you about a date I once had. During a phase when I was “not being so fussy” (you know, that thing we get told when we’ve got standards) – I agreed to someone’s request for a quick coffee date “to check for chemistry”. Now I’ve always posted photos, but this person had…

What makes you laugh? Are you puntastic, or a prankster? Do you laugh at wit, or willies? Do you wear a politically incorrect badge, or are you woke ‘n proud? No-one has ever persuaded or charmed me into bed, but I’ve been laughed into bed more than once. Sharing a sense of humour is a…