Back in those days when dating was done via online profiles, where the first thing you were encouraged to do was to list the physical attributes of the person you were looking for – height, eye and hair colour, body type – all higher up the list than personal qualities. Did I consider it odd? […]

Whenever the word “friend” is mentioned in dating scenarios, I saw it as falling into one of three categories: friend with benefits being friend-zoned loving someone who is also your best friend The first category is – in my view – a much maligned one. If you are able to separate sex from love, then […]

I opened up this series of posts by suggesting the importance of knowing yourself (here), for only by doing this – and doing this honestly – are you able to apply a degree of laser focus to your dating. Let me give you an example. I knew I wanted a serious relationship, one that would […]

When I was newly re-singled aged 50, the world of online dating was a massive learning experience for me. Although I’m not someone who’s ever kept a diary, I did write about my experiences in something I mentally entitled Debs Dating Diaries. Yup, I think I was imagining myself writing a regular column in some […]

Let me tell you about a date I once had. During a phase when I was “not being so fussy” (you know, that thing we get told when we’ve got standards) – I agreed to someone’s request for a quick coffee date “to check for chemistry”. Now I’ve always posted photos, but this person had […]

What makes you laugh? Are you puntastic, or a prankster? Do you laugh at wit, or willies? Do you wear a politically incorrect badge, or are you woke ‘n proud? No-one has ever persuaded or charmed me into bed, but I’ve been laughed into bed more than once. Sharing a sense of humour is a […]