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That was a colleague’s reaction when he heard about my family background (that my maternal grandfather was Indian). And yes, I guess I am… should you be one of those people who use the word wog. I’ve always been proud of my heritage - one quarter Indian, one English, one Scots, one Irish. I make …
I used to have a really good relationship with my mother. After my daughter was born, I lived in a multi-generational family home, where I actively choose to spend our free time together. We talked openly, I trusted her completely with the care of my only child; a child who - while now grown-up with …
Let's take a look at Abraham Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs - a widely accepted theory of psychological health based upon fulfilling innate human needs in priority, culminating in self-actualization- which is depicted below in an image from Simply Psychology. Starting at the bottom, the first level is physical needs, with the next being safety. At …
Imagine your brain as an Iceberg - there's only the smallest bit visible... but loads below the surface, out of sight. It's the perfect image, because you're only aware of 5% of your brain (what is called the conscious brain), which means 95% of your brain (or the subconscious part) is totally out of your …
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If I look back, there's... My mother, the narcissist, damaged by the lifelong treatment she received at the hands of her parents. My grandmother, also (I believe) a narcissist, damaged by multiple life experiences. My great grandfather - a charming man who nevertheless deserted his wife and children. My grandmother's brothers who left as quickly …
There's a good reason coaches and therapists don't work with family or good friends - and that's simply because you really are too close to see the wood for the trees. Despite knowing about narcissism, despite years of study, I couldn't see it. Until I did. I also wonder if I didn't see it until …
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